Image source: deviantart.comJust when you feel you have the worst life in this world...please read this. Hopefully it helps us to be a better person and to be strong.
Ju was physically abused as a child. She lived with a mother who was
diagnosed with post depression and a father who was a wife abuser.
Her parent divorced and left six of them with her mother. She left
school at 15 and went to work waiting tables to help her mother feed
them all.
At 18 she met and fell in love and was married soon after. Then she
found out that her husband drank too much, slept around with other
women, a wife abuser and took drugs.
She was divorced at age 20 with two children. Her husband took their
son away and handed him to his friend. He was sent to jail for an
offence with the law.
Her husband's friend did not want to hand the boy over to her and
demanded money in exchange. The child had scars on his chest due to
burnt from cigarette butts. That was what he got for crying out for
food.
She finally managed to get her son back. She left her children in her
mother's care while she left to find a job.
At 28 she had an accident. Her dress caught fire and she suffered 2nd
degree burns.
With that her self-esteem and self-confidence went down the pit. She
was depressed. She attempted suicides several times and was given
psychiatric treatments.
After a major surgery and lots of counseling and support from
relatives and friends, she started her life all over again even with
one partly deformed hand and fingers.
Her anxiety was all the time still present. It was tougher to find a
job. She felt like a disabled person.
The one thing that kept her going in spite of her misfortune was her
will to be able to feed herself and sent money for her children. She
did not want to ask for financial support.
At 38 she was diagnosed with cancer of the cervix. That was a big
blow to her. She went through another depression episode.
"Why me?" was the question she repeatedly asked. Of course when she
asked that question, she got all the wrong answers. She felt more
depressed. She blamed her father, her mother and everyone for what
brought her sufferings. Worst, she blamed herself.
She agreed to go for the treatments, chemotherapy and cesium, because
she did not want to go through the pains.
This was when she took the time to look within her. She thought that
she might not live long enough so she decided to reconnect with her
children. It was not easy especially with her son who had gone
through his own childhood trauma.
She turned to her family for moral support and she turned to God.
Now eight years later, she is still alive. Waking up and able to
breathe for another day is a gift for her.
She has two grandchildren whom she adores and that give her much joy.
She takes some jobs every now and then when her health permits and
rests when she needs it.
Her question has changed. She now asks what is it she could do to get
more out of what is left?
Things happen and happen to us all. Life does not play favorites.
Everyone has a story to tell.
It is how we handle it that matters. We do not have to wait until a
major catastrophe interrupts us to think of what we should do with
our lives.
It is up to us to make or break us. No one can tell our brain and
mind what to do. No one can tell us what to think of and what to put
inside our head.
We have the power to think what we want to think. To forget past
hurts or to linger with them.
We can decide, plan and take action on what we want to have, do or
be. At least when the universe intervenes, we know that we have done
our best.
Paty Manterola
CRISTACURVA
413 Interamerica Blvd WH1 PMB 027-318
Laredo, TX 78045 Mexico
Ju was physically abused as a child. She lived with a mother who was
diagnosed with post depression and a father who was a wife abuser.
Her parent divorced and left six of them with her mother. She left
school at 15 and went to work waiting tables to help her mother feed
them all.
At 18 she met and fell in love and was married soon after. Then she
found out that her husband drank too much, slept around with other
women, a wife abuser and took drugs.
She was divorced at age 20 with two children. Her husband took their
son away and handed him to his friend. He was sent to jail for an
offence with the law.
Her husband's friend did not want to hand the boy over to her and
demanded money in exchange. The child had scars on his chest due to
burnt from cigarette butts. That was what he got for crying out for
food.
She finally managed to get her son back. She left her children in her
mother's care while she left to find a job.
At 28 she had an accident. Her dress caught fire and she suffered 2nd
degree burns.
With that her self-esteem and self-confidence went down the pit. She
was depressed. She attempted suicides several times and was given
psychiatric treatments.
After a major surgery and lots of counseling and support from
relatives and friends, she started her life all over again even with
one partly deformed hand and fingers.
Her anxiety was all the time still present. It was tougher to find a
job. She felt like a disabled person.
The one thing that kept her going in spite of her misfortune was her
will to be able to feed herself and sent money for her children. She
did not want to ask for financial support.
At 38 she was diagnosed with cancer of the cervix. That was a big
blow to her. She went through another depression episode.
"Why me?" was the question she repeatedly asked. Of course when she
asked that question, she got all the wrong answers. She felt more
depressed. She blamed her father, her mother and everyone for what
brought her sufferings. Worst, she blamed herself.
She agreed to go for the treatments, chemotherapy and cesium, because
she did not want to go through the pains.
This was when she took the time to look within her. She thought that
she might not live long enough so she decided to reconnect with her
children. It was not easy especially with her son who had gone
through his own childhood trauma.
She turned to her family for moral support and she turned to God.
Now eight years later, she is still alive. Waking up and able to
breathe for another day is a gift for her.
She has two grandchildren whom she adores and that give her much joy.
She takes some jobs every now and then when her health permits and
rests when she needs it.
Her question has changed. She now asks what is it she could do to get
more out of what is left?
Things happen and happen to us all. Life does not play favorites.
Everyone has a story to tell.
It is how we handle it that matters. We do not have to wait until a
major catastrophe interrupts us to think of what we should do with
our lives.
It is up to us to make or break us. No one can tell our brain and
mind what to do. No one can tell us what to think of and what to put
inside our head.
We have the power to think what we want to think. To forget past
hurts or to linger with them.
We can decide, plan and take action on what we want to have, do or
be. At least when the universe intervenes, we know that we have done
our best.
Paty Manterola
CRISTACURVA
413 Interamerica Blvd WH1 PMB 027-318
Laredo, TX 78045 Mexico
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